During this pandemic, so many people have had more time on their hands than they know what to do with. But for moms? Well, that’s not the case in the motherhood space. Burnout among moms, in particular, has been a defining principle of this global disaster. In an effort to connect with more women and lessen that burnout potential, I started “Tea Talks.”
This series was designed to open up a brief but candid conversation around motherhood and how we each experience it; especially in regards to who and what we lean on for support during this powerful time. Basically, the things that are less talked about in the glowy world of social media and that we don’t get to share in our normal platforms, especially as ambitious women who are seen as “being able to do it all.”
My first Tea Talk is with Julia Dzafic of Lemon Stripes. I’ve followed her on social for years now, and I absolutely love her story. Julia lives in Stamford, CT with her husband Anel, their 3.5-year-old daughter Amalia, and is pregnant with their second (a little boy!) She is a digital creator who strives to live a balanced and healthy lifestyle as a parent.
How hasn’t it!? I’ve become fiercely protective of my family and my priorities have completely shifted. Being a good mother is my number one goal in life so my career has definitely slowed down. That’s not something I ever thought I would want but these first few years of my kids’ lives are so important and I want them to remember them as happy times! I’m also a lot more tired 🙂
Taking rest hours every day no matter how busy I am. If I don’t do that, I am worthless.
Pretty much everything! In my first pregnancy, I was reading my apps every day and tracking things closely. I had the nursery designed in the second trimester and was ready to go. This time around, I forgot they even had apps and I’m 10 weeks away from my due date and just realized we needed to make a nursery plan! It’s so cliché but you really just have less time for prep the second time around.
The best part about this pregnancy is sharing it with our daughter. She is SO excited for her baby brother to come and loves to talk about him, draw him pictures, and buy him gifts. It’s very sweet. The most challenging is that I’ve been very sick and tired in my 3rd trimester so I’m trying to balance that while working full time and caring for my daughter.
It’s been harder to see and interact with my support system during COVID but I meet with Janelle from Egoscue Westchester on Zoom for structural support and my best friend is an acupuncturist so I see her weekly for acupuncture. My husband has been such a wonderful support system, stepping it up around the house and with our daughter more and more. My sister and I were also pregnant at the same time until she recently had her baby so it was fun to connect on that level!
I run my own business so I can’t take too much time off but as of now, I’m planning to take 6-8 weeks off of work then slowly ease back in. I’m prepping in advance but having my friends and colleagues create guest blog posts for my website.
I drink Earl Grey with oat milk and honey every single morning (I’m not a coffee drinker) and Chamomile every night.
Through these conversations, I hope to inspire other women and remind them that we’re all riding the wild ups and downs of motherhood together. And that we’re better, with a village behind us.